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Friday, December 13, 2013

A Proactive View of Pornography

By Baruch Okpulor                                                                                                                                                                               

I Got It All Wrong

There has been a controversy over the relationship between pornography and violent crimes including sexually related crimes as rape, assault, serial murder, child sexual abuse, bondage sex, et cetera.
Several proponents of pornography have raised few arguments to support pornography and on why it should not be banned or regulated by the government. These include the producers, sellers and viewers or

One of the reasons behind these arguments lies on the amount of money spent to produce these materials and the huge annual income generated in return for this venom sold to the public.
Kerby Anderson wrote that pornography is an $8 billion-a-year business with close ties to organized crime. This runs into several billions of naira especially with the advent of the internet and its services available to the developing nations. The vendors of porn reap huge profits through sales in so-called adult bookstores and through the viewing of films and live acts at theaters and clubs.

Porn industry is rapidly growing the largest market and consumers all over the world. LaRue in May 2005 wrote that by the end of 2004, there were 420 million pages of pornography, and it is believed that the majority of these websites are owned by less than 50 companies.
This volume does not include books, magazines, and movies. It simply follows that the public is to contend with 1,150685 pages of pornography per day on the internet.

The Nielsen/Net Ratings in September 2003 published a report that more than 32 million unique individuals visited a porn website in September 2003.
Nearly 22.8 million of them were male (71%), while 9.4 million adult site visitors were female (29%). Which one product would be patronized by over 32 million different people in just one month? A big reason why the production of such "product" must be defended by those involved.

A product that charms and wets the sexual appetite of men, women and even teens. The Family Safe Media on December 15, 2005 in her statistics published a report that the largest viewers of internet porn are children between the ages 12 and 17.

National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to children on August 10, 2003 informed the public that more than 20,000 images of child pornography are posted on the internet every week. This means that 1,040,000 images of child porn would be on the net in a year.

The above report supported another report released in 2005 by the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children which reported that of those arrested in the U.S. for the possession of child pornography between 2000 and 2001, 83% had images involving children between the ages 6 and 12 while 39% had images involving children between ages 3 and 5; and 19% had images of infants and toddlers under age 3.

It is a common sight to see young men who spend the whole night for several days on the internet in cyber cafes surfing pornographic materials in a world of fantasy and perversion. A major reason for the defense of pornography by the purveyors is the huge return on their investment.

Family Safe Media on January 10, 2006, reported that the internet pornography industry generates $12 billion dollars in annual revenue – larger than the combined annual revenues of three industries combined – ABC, NBC and CBS. National Research Council Report of 2002 showed that the cyber sex industry, which is an arm of internet pornography, generates approximately $1billion yearly and is expected to grow to $5 – 7 billion over the next 5 years, barring unforeseen change.

The total porn industry – estimates from $4 billion to $10 billion. It is, therefore, difficult for the producers of porn to see any evil in it since they are constantly patronized by sexually inquisitive men, women and children.
One of the arguments raised by the producers of porn is that there is no conclusive scientific proof that porn causes sex crimes. T
his argument is flawed for two reasons. One, is evil or crime condemned or justified only by the availability of scientific evidence? We all accept verdicts which condemn people for arson, manslaughter, even when these offences are committed under provocation.

These people face the gallows or jailed by the availability of confessional statements and human witnesses and evidences without scientific proofs. Why then do we need scientific proof before porn is regulated or banned?
Two, several confessional statements made by the offenders which are correlated with the evidences by the investigation officers confirm a strong link between viewing porn and violent sexual crimes.
Raymond Pierce, a retired detective in a response to an interview on Porn and Sex-Related Homicide wrote that in an FBI study of 36 serial killers conducted in the 1980s, revealed that 29 of these killers were attracted to pornography and incorporated it into their criminal sexual activity, including serial rape and murder.

One of these cases involved a serial killer who was killing prostitutes. Once he completed the sex act, he stripped and tortured them for hours.

The significance of fantasy in this case was graphically revealed when detectives went into the killer's home and retrieved a number of items, including one pornography videotape. The tape contained a number of scenes that were similar to what the offender was doing to his victims.

The Knoxville Journal, February 27, 1989 reported a case of an engineer who assaulted three girls, killing one of them and assaulting four others. When police searched his rented storage unit, they found 935 pornographic books and magazines showing sexual bondage, horror scenes and nakedness.

They also found books about the serial killer. Associated Press in October 30, 2002 reported of the case of a Colonel who was sentenced for beating and strangling his wife to death over an argument about his use of the internet to view pornography. One of the vivid reports that has linked porn to sexual assaults, incest, pedophiliac crimes and bondage sex and lust murders, is the one presented.

By Robert H. Macy in a July 23, 1991 hearing before the U.S. Senate Committee on the Judiciary to address the Pornography's Victims' Compensation Act of 1991. He testified as follows: "Back in 1984, I was contacted by citizens in Oklahoma Country wanting to do something about the sex crime problem and pornography. Up until that time, I was truly a Doubting Thomas as to the correlation between sex crimes and pornography….

However, we put together a strategy to try to as much as we could eliminate pornography or obscenity and sex-oriented businesses in Oklahoma country.
We did it rather quietly, but we went out and systematically closed 12 out of 13 porn bookstores, 11 peep show operations. We had the porno films taken off of cable TV. With the help of a city ordinance, we closed 75 topless and bottomless bars. We shut down 21 houses of prostitution and eliminated 3 hardcore porn theatres.

But to give you an idea of what happened when we cracked down. Between 1984 and 1989, rape cases reduced from 565 in 1984 to 427 in 1989. So, in 5 years, the number of rapes dropped by 138, or almost 25% and the only thing we did was the crack down on obscenity and sex oriented businesses". If You Object It, Don't Patronize It Another argument used by the printed page and media houses to promote pornography is "if you object to it, don't patronize it".

One thing that flaws this argument is that it is selfish. It considers only the people who use pornography. It is evident that porn has a multiplier effect and by extension affects the spouses and children of the consumers and the public who become victims when they act out their sadistic fantasies. T
he performers, many of them are under 21, are physically and emotionally abused in the production of hardcore pornography and acquire sexually transmitted diseases and sexually transmitted infections. Several children have been abused sexually and murdered by grandfather, father and kidnappers who feed on porn to sexually arouse themselves and to entice, desensitize and instruct their child victims.

Children have been abused by their fellow children who imitate what they view in hardcore pornography robbing them of the opportunity to develop healthy sexual orientation and behaviour.

Most ladies are harassed at their work place by porn addicts and spouses live in depression because of the secret porn life of their husbands. How many people are expected to be destroyed emotionally, physically, financially, and spiritually before porn is considered abnormal and dangerous to the society and home?
Another argument raised by viewers and producers of porn has to do with personal rights. Our generation has become that of Epicureans when it comes to pleasure, happiness and personal rights.

Our world believes that human and personal rights remove all restraints upon the individual as regards morality, ethics and accountability. These hedonists believe that pleasure and passion must be the aim of life. They promote this by the slogan "It's your life, express it".

However, God, the Creator of man warns that though man is a free moral agent, he must be held responsible and accountable for any thought, imagination, decision and action taken about his/her life.
This axiom makes it mandatory for man to be guided by an objective standard of authority – God's Word. In this case, man has not an absolute but relative liberty dependent on that which is useful and purposeful in his life.

There must be what is seen as immoral, unethical and antisocial as not all things that give pleasure are goo.
It is unfortunate that those who preach the concept of personal rights in defense of porn have been enslaved by same act of porn.

If we accept the universal belief that good films, dramas, books improve the mind, develop character and enrich the human personality, how can we deny the belief that immoral and sexually explicit books, magazines and movies would debase the mind, destroy character and distort human personality?
Pornography has no good fro man.

5 Most Effective Ways to Heal Your Scars

By Baruch Okpulor

When I think of scars, I remember noble men and women like David Watson, W. Mitchell, Pat seed, fanny Crosby, Horatio Gates, John Newton and my dad, Silas.
These men would not have continued meaningfully to life if they had dwelt on their past. 
When David Watson was diagnosed of cancer and was told he had a year more on earth, he felt it right to plunge himself into the work of the ministry.
He was far from being inactive, although he was still in pains. W. Mitchell suffered a fatal accident that left him with third degree burns.                                                                                  
 My dad, Silas, spent twelve years of his life in pains and became paralyzed few moths before his demise.
What kept them moving?                                                                                                                                                          
They monitored their thoughts
Monitoring our thoughts, feelings, actions and reactions is necessary if we truly want to free ourselves of   bitterness and from our painful past.                                                                            
The person you are today is a direct result of your thoughts and actions yesterday and who you will be tomorrow depends on what you think and do today.                                                                 
Will you, tomorrow, be loving and productive, or will you be locked up in an emotional prison?

They chose the Best Way to Act or React
 In every situation, God has redeemed you with the power to choose how you will act or react. So, choose the action and reaction that will lead to a sustainable peace of mind.
Look ahead to the probable repercussion of your actions or attitudes. Will you feel comfortable later with what you are saying and doing now?

They forgave themselves
 I have learned that love is not just a relationship with another individual; it’s a state of being. It begins with love for self. God had not put people on earth for the sole purpose of making you happy.
You’re created to make yourself happy. The people who live fulfilled, happy lives are those who have learned how to forgive themselves when they make mistakes.

They let God In
When you “let out” anger, bitterness, self pity and self persecution, you let God in.                        
When you do, you let Him take the lead. He’ll help us to remember the loving thoughts and things we gave in the past and the loving thoughts and acts that were given to us. And He’ll help us forget all the rest.

They pressed and pushed forward
Paul, the apostle reminds us, “Brethren I do not count myself to have apprehended but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 3:13,14).
Why don’t you be happy with today’s new mercies than yesterday’s old woes? You may not understand the reasons for the heartbreaks of yesterday, but you can make the right responses to enjoy the blessings of tomorrow.

If you have been enriched by this article, kindly leave a comment so that others will be encouraged by your experiences.

Sunday, October 3, 2010

How to overcome any Temptation in 3 Steps

This is a continuation of the article, How to understand any temptation in 4 steps. Understanding how temptation to sin works is necessary but overcoming it is most necessary.
Adopt the following strategies to overcome temptations in life:

Step 1-Understand Your Pattern of Temptation

Satan attacks every individual from his areas of least resistance. Every individual has unique weaknesses and strengths and devil attacks from the area of weakness.
There are conditions that make you more vulnerable to temptation than others. Some circumstances will cause you to stumble immediately while others may take time.
Satan knows what attracts and excites you most and would always use that as a bait to catch and destroy your relationship with God.
Some people may be prone to short temper while others may be to lust or drunkenness or envy.
It is your responsibility to determine where and when you are most tempted; what catches your fancy and who is always with you when you are most tempted.

Step 2- Don’t fear your Temptation

It is true that whatever you fear, you can’t overcome. Until you stop being frightened and demoralized by tempting thoughts, or feeling ashamed or guilty for being tempted, you will never outgrow temptation.
Devil doesn’t tempt those already doing his bidding. It is not a sign of weakness or worldliness but a confirmation that Satan hates you.
Temptation becomes sin when give in to it. God advises, “Resist the devil and he will flee from you.” You may be tempted with physical attraction or sexual arousal which is a normal response but when you give in to it, it becomes lust-a choice to commit in your mind what you would like to do with your body.
Martin Luther said, “You cannot keep birds from flying over your head but you can keep them from building a nest in your hair.”

Step 3- Ask for God’s Help

The strength to overcome any temptation comes from God. Ask for it. The best way to acquire it is by engaging in covenant time with God.

Recommended Books:

The Irony of Love, Premarital and Extramarital Relationships

Stop Existing! Start Living!

Breaking the Hold of Self-Slavery

The Secret of Supernatural Power, Deliverance and Prosperity

How Not to Choose a Marriage Partner

One of the first major tests in the life of every adult single is the test of choosing a life partner-wife or husband. The maturity, cleverness and preference of the man or lady are brought into scrutiny in the process. The ability of the young man or lady to correctly identify and select his wife or accept her husband in the midst of thousands of other women is an arduous task.
Therefore, every adult single must be led by God, the Creator of the marriage institution in order to make the right choice of spouse.

Part of the problem encountered by adult singles in choosing life partners is that they adopt worldly patterns and perspectives in choosing life partners.

a. Love at first Sight may be dangerous

What most singles call “love at first sight” has turned to be “lust at first sight.” Getting married is not like cooking a fast food. You may truly fall in love at first sight but don’t be hasty to sign the marriage register to avoid regrets later.
Take time to study your prospective spouse, the values, beliefs, interests, background, vision and weaknesses.

b. Don’t Select a Spouse based on Tribal Sentiments

God is not tribalistic for he would have sent Jesus to die for a particular tribe or race or not the world John 3:16.
Sometimes, most people who married based solely on tribal and racial beliefs regret that action. Marriage is not about tribe but the Will and purpose of God for your life.
No tribe is inferior to the other or superior to others. The spirit behind tribalism or ethnocentrism is clearly satanic.
God warns, “there is no Jew, Greek, bond, free, barbaric, Scythian but we are all one in Christ Jesus.”
God is the perfect match maker. Submit to him to lead you to who you should marry.

c. Don’t Select a Partner based on Materialism

Covetousness and greed are the insatiable desire for worldly gain. Some men and women desire marriage because of the wealth and physical things they stand to get. They focus their attention on what they can see-beauty, height, fair skin, straight legs, wealthy background, fat bank account.
God warns, “Beauty is vain.” For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out.
Most people who married for beauty and materialism regret it because they discovered with emotional pain that the people they married are not what they represented. Don’t be another victim.

d. Don’t select a Spouse based solely on Status

It is a norm in the society for the children of the rich to marry children of same class. That’s why we found arranged marriages.
Sadly, this evil creeps into the Christian family. Some wealthy Christians relate with only the wealthy in the church and the children are programmed to do so.
Contrariwise, some children of the average parents are taught to mind their business and discouraged to be friends with the ruling and wealthy class.
Some parents quash proposed marriages except among their class.

Recommended Books:

The Irony of Love, Premarital and Extramarital Relationships

Stop Existing! Start Living!

Breaking the Hold of Self-Slavery

How to understand any Temptation in 4 steps

It is Martin Luther who said, “My temptations have been my master in divinity.” Every child of God is prone to temptation through the lust of the eyes, lust of the flesh or pride of life.

Interestingly, every temptation is an opportunity to do good and develop character. On the path of spiritual maturity, it is a stepping-stone rather than a stumbling block. While temptation is Satan’s primary weapon to destroy you, God wants to use it to develop you.
But you can’t handle temptations well if you don’t understand how the devil uses it against you.

How Temptation Works

Satan creates temptation in four steps:

Step 1- He identifies a Desire inside of You

This desire may be good such as to be loved or sinful such as to get revenge, steal or kill. Temptation starts when Satan suggests through the thought process that you satisfy a legitimate need in a sinful way or give in to a sinful desire. Temptation doesn’t begin around us, but within us because what we conceive or think about often, we act upon. Your internal desire through your mind attracts you to the temptation.
Mark 7:21-23 says, “For from within, out of a person’s heart, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, wickedness, deceit, eagerness for lustful pleasure, envy, slander, pride, and foolishness. All these vile things come from within.”

Step 2-He creates Doubt in You

Satan tries to get you to doubt what God has said about the sin. Didn’t God mean this for someone else or some other occasion? Is it really sinful? He used this tactic on Eve when he asked, did God really say, “You must not eat from any tree in the garden.”

Step 3-He creates a Deception

God tells us that Satan is the father of lies, so he is incapable of speaking the truth. He replaces God’s truth with lies of half-truth. He told Eve, “you will not surely die.” Today, he tells us, “everybody is doing it,” “it will solve your problem,” “that’s the only way out,” “You can do it now and repent later.” “No one will ever know.’

Sadly, when we have engaged in these sins, we find his purported truth to be absolute lies. Eve found it out regrettably. Little sins don’t remain little.

Step 4- He creates Disobedience

This occurs when you’ve resolved to execute his suggestion. You act on the thought you’ve been toying with in your mind. Then the consequences and regrets follow.
Learn to understand the devil’s strategies and overcome his wiles.

Recommended Books:

The Irony of Love, Premarital and Extramarital Relationships

Stop Existing! Start Living!

Breaking the Hold of Self-Slavery

The Secret of Supernatural Power, Deliverance and Prosperity

Why You Are Not Married

Some people who are married today found it easy to do so, yet there are many adult singles that are due for marriage but are not. Few churches can boast of joining more than 20 to 30 couples in marriage every year.
God intended that man should fulfill his covenant of creation through marriage, thus he said, “it is not good that the man should be alone” Genesis 2:18.
Marriage was instituted for the purpose of procreation and preservation of purity. The task of being fruitful, multiplying and generally taking dominion over creation is better done by a man and woman, in the partnership of marriage.

There are few reasons why you are not married:

a. Fear of failing

A 6-year old girl was asked what sort of man she would marry when she grew up. She took a stern look at the uncle and said, “Uncle, I will never get married, never! Because mommy and daddy are always fighting and that’s because they’re married.”

Many adult singles have this wrong notion of marriage. Their views of the marriage institution are distorted by the unsuccessful marriages of those around them. They live with an unconscious or conscious fear of failure in marriage. This has the tendency to cause them to hesitate to get married when due.
Others who are afraid to get married are those who grew up in abusive families. This include families where the father or mother is an alcoholic, drug dependent, wife barter, or suffered sexual abuse by step-father or mother.
The best way to heal is to begin to forget your past by forgiving those who have hurt you in the past; seeking for strength in God and the ability to live on.
The book, “The Irony of Love, Premarital and Extramarital Relationships, discusses how to heal after a hurtful past. This may not be easy but is impossible and the best for you.
Remember, no one can take away your happiness without your permission.

b. Having the spirit of Apathy

Many adult singles may have adequate knowledge on the purpose of marriage. They may have seen successful marriages rooted in love, yet they are burdened by the spirit of apathy. They don’t seem to be moved by the thought of getting married. Your marriage is important to you, God, your family and the world.
Delay leads to hasty and wrong decisions which often lead to mistakes in choosing a partner.

c. Lack of knowledge on the Purpose of Marriage

An intending couple that is fully aware of the purpose of marriage will most likely be given the divine license and favour to marry faster than those ignorant of the purpose of marriage. Some people feel they should marry because their friends, schoolmates, colleagues or relations are married. Others think it is traditional to marry when one is of age. Yet, others get married because they feel it’s time to enjoy the sexual pleasures of marriage.
All these reasons are outside God’s purpose for establishing the marriage institution. Marriage is for companionship; procreation; expansion of God’s kingdom on earth by raising godly children; conjugation; demonstration of love among couples and support.

d. Living in Sexual Sin

Many adult singles dwell in sexual immorality via premarital sexual relationship and cohabitation before marriage. They have access to as many men and ladies they want to satisfy their sexual appetite and feel it is unnecessary to settle down soon in marriage. As long as you remain in the sin of fornication, you shut heaven from revealing the right partner for your life. Devil will always show you counterfeit partners.

e. Being Choosy

Some adult singles ignorantly wait to get married until it becomes too late. Some ladies who are endowed by God with beautiful physical appearance become so selective that they could turn down as many marriage proposals as they want.
This often happens when they are very young and elegant.
Suddenly, the tides of time overtake them and panic strikes their heart that they are getting old. They waited for a man with a car, house, a great job and fat bank account.

They get involved in any and every type of relationship for fear that they may never have any other chance. This is marriage of convenience.
A faulty foundation makes every other thing faulty. Delay brings anxiety, anxiety leads to mistakes and mistakes leads to failure and regret.
God warns, “To every thing, there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.”

Recommended Books:

The Irony of Love, Premarital and Extramarital Relationships

Stop Existing! Start Living!

Monday, September 6, 2010

Free Sample of Book Review on The Irony of Love, Premarital Relationship

Book: The Irony of Love, Premarital And Extramarital Relationships
Author: Baruch Silas
Publisher: Lulu
Pages: 196
Reviewer: Dr. C.O. Uchegbu (Medical Director)

The non-fiction book, The Irony of Love, Premarital And Extramarital Relationships written by Baruch Silas is about love and relationships with reference to understanding the classes of love, building and maintaining healthy and sustainable relationships free of premarital sexual relations, cohabitation and extramarital infidelity.

The writer in The Power of Self-Worth, ventured into an allegory on romance and love by first establishing the power of self-worth, self-esteem, self-image and self-respect in regulation of love, premarital and extramarital relationships.
He declares that the opinion one has about himself determines to a large extent how one chooses his values, goals, love partner, formulate belief system and relates with the opposite sex in terms of acceptance of love advances and personal carriage.
When your individual self-worth is porous and fragile, you will suffer endless emotional and mental torture and humiliation in the hands of others.
Explaining further in How to Build Your Self-Image, one fully agrees with Baruch in the seven strategies discussed as ways to build and maintain an admirable personality.
Initially, he discussed all the ways whereby one looses his self-worth.

Baruch in Love and Infatuation reveals the transparent reasons which tilts infatuation against love because it harbours attributes that militate against healthy relationship.
He discusses the six indisputable sins of infatuation while revealing the admirable and sustainable character of love and its manifestations.
It is the responsibility of one who craves to enjoy a healthy relationship to imbibe, anticipate and practice these principles of romance and love to avoid heartbreak, hurt and bad memories.

Any reader will agree with the author that the bulk of the pain, emotional and physical damage experienced in love relationships is caused by a misunderstanding and misapplication of infatuation as love.
He confirmed these axioms by presenting verifiable confessions of those who have been burnt by the fires of infatuation and lust.

In Facing the Reality of Premarital Sexual Activity, the writer throws a bomb against the popular opinion that premarital sex and cohabitation are acceptable and normal in love relationships.
He argues that premarital sexual intimacy and cohabitation before marriage destroy the foundation of love and marriage thereby militates against a healthy and sustainable relationship.
Most times, when one of the partners wakes up to enthrone chastity and restraint into the relationship, it results in misunderstanding by the other partner, heated arguments and break-up.
The more sexually involved a male and a female become before marriage, the more difficult it is to develop genuine friendship, love or discuss sincerely about issues that significantly affect them such as values, interests, beliefs, and vision.

Moreover, the writer disagrees strongly with the accepted opinion that one indulges in premarital sexual activity only when there is a penetration.
He believes that every act that leads to the actual sexual intercourse make up premarital sex as the foreplay of kissing, fondling of body parts, touching of erotic zones and mutual masturbation and oral sex lead to sexual intercourse.

Baruch in Why We Must Abstain from Sex Before Marriage explored some reasons why youngsters and adult singles engage in premarital sexual activities and why and how to abstain until marriage even if one is a victim already.
He supports this stand point based on the physical, emotional, social, spiritual, health, and academic damages of premarital sex and cohabitation.
He strengthened it further with the confessions of those who are the victims of these effects.

The writer makes a bold impression on the reader as he discusses in How to Prevent Premarital Sexual Activities, the relationship strategies to adopt to remain chaste until marriage.
He declares how to break away from unhealthy relationship without breaking down which is usually the problem of many people.
Any reader will not help but notice the great force and passion of Baruch as he thrashes out the destructive effects of marital infidelity on the individual, family, friends and God and why couples give in to it.

Not everyone would agree with the author that no reason justifies the act of marital unfaithfulness.
However, he advises that the most potent alternative is not to run but flee from men and women who cannot keep their marriage vows.

Take a look at the Book HERE

Free Book Review on the Book "Study Abroad Funding for International Students

Book: Study Abroad Funding for International Students
Author: Baruch Silas
Publisher: Lulu Enterprises; I-Proclaim Press
Reviewer: Innocent Chikezie (Nottingham Trent University, UK)

Baruch’s book, Study Abroad Funding for International Students is about how and where to secure finding for graduate studies outside ones country of origin.
The writer discovered that millions of prospective international students miss the opportunity to study overseas because of lack of sponsorship.

One fully agrees that the quality of education in the developed nations is considerably higher than what is obtained in the developing nations where the greater percentage of international students comes from.

Also, the higher fees paid by international students compound the more this challenge. One therefore needs as much funding as he could get.
Baruch introduces in Why You Need a Degree Overseas the 10 indisputable reasons why one must strive to acquire a degree overseas.
He elaborated on the privileges and benefits of studying at world-renowned universities.

The writer went ahead to introduce and classify the funding opportunities into continents, countries, regions and cities within the seven continents of the world.
When people do not know where and how to get the best out of life, they miss out absolutely.
For one to secure funding to study in another country, he must know where such opportunities are.
Baruch therefore presented over 100 sponsorship opportunities of varying duration and value indifferent disciplines and countries, available to international students from any part of the world.
He categorized them into undergraduate and postgraduate and according to discipline. He presented detailed information about each opportunity with reference to the award description, process application, deadline, type of discipline tenable, eligibility and contact details with email, web address, telephone, fax and physical address.

The writer went ahead to classify the finding opportunities according to the value of each award into full and partial funding. The full funding opportunity caters for all the payments required from the student throughout the duration of study including tuition, accommodation and living expenses.
The partial funding caters for a part of the student’s fees which may be tuition or accommodation or living expenses or part of tuition.

While Baruch has presented various sources of funding for international students, it is the responsibility of the student to go for them and actualize his academic dreams.

View Book HERE

Saturday, August 14, 2010

Book Reviews

Book Title: When Trusting God Makes No Sense

Author: Baruch Silas
Genre: Self-help/Spirituality
Country: United Kingdom
Year: 2010
ISBN 978-0-557-59954-7
Copyright Baruch Silas (Standard Copyright License)
Publisher Baruch Silas
Published August 11, 2010
Language English
Pages 296
Binding Perfect-bound Paperback
Interior Ink Black & white
Weight 1.85 lbs.
Dimensions (inches) 8.3 wide × 11.7 tall

Book Description:

What is God doing when He keeps silent over our agitation for help? Why does He delay the times we need Him immediately? Is His power limited? This book discusses extensively the setbacks of life, why they come to you, what they are meant to accomplish in your life, what you are expected to do to overcome all of them and become great. It is a revelation of what happens in the supernatural realm when we are troubled in the physical. It answers the recurring questions of “why do we suffer pain, troubles and sorrow; why do bad things happen to God’s people; what happens when God seems million miles away and what to do; what to do with circumstances we can’t change; the power of praises, prayer and fasting over troubles and persecutions; the pleasure in pain and sorrow; how to understand and defeat any reproach in our life. This book is a guide for you to be re-instated to your glory.

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Friday, July 23, 2010

The Bitter Part of Illicit Romance

“Satan does not need to overpower us in order to win the war. He only needs to get us to adopt his way of fighting it.” Terry Warner

Is office romance bitter than sweet? Should Office romance be encouraged? What do you lose if you are in this situation? Sadly, illicit sexual relationship is like, "Excite a schadenfreude and watch it slobber."

Possibility of being fired
When my former M.D discovered that my branch manager has hooked up for marriage with a pregnancy to show, he quickly suspended her, set up a panel to probe her activities and later fired her. He couldn’t share his “beef” with any other man even though he never planned to marry her.
The time was up and he couldn’t continue keeping her.

Illicit Romance might mar your career or its progress

Most bosses are not happy when they see a lady or guy they are dying for in the embrace of another especially a junior officer. Though you may not know or be called to order by them but you may just be up for slaughter in the company. Several guys in the universities and offices have fallen victims of this issue.

Extramarital Relationship erodes your respect and dignity

Most informed junior workers may begin to politely disrespect you in the heart, with the way they respond to your demands or what they say about you.
Most men have been caught pants down with ladies in the office. God save you if you are a junior officer.

It could backfire or break your marriage

Most marriages have fallen victims of this emotional malady. Imagine catching my babe with another guy in the office! There would be the temptation for it but remember your fingers might be on fire.

The truth is that if we invest in our relationships by strengthening communication and spending quality time with our spouse, our relationships grow and expand into meaningful connections that enrich our lives.
Today is the best day to start doing it.

Recommended Book:

The Irony of Love, Premarital and Extramarital Relationships

Kindly leave a comment.

Baruch Silas


The chief cause of failure and unhappiness is trading what we want most for what we want at the moment-

Recently, a friend of mine called me one night to seek my opinion on this issue.
She told me that her boss who is married with kids is interested in her with promises to do so much for her if she would be his mistress.
Her call quickly reminded me of what happened in my former place of work where one of the company partners was in the habit of engaging in sizzling romance with the branch managers of the company.
It started as a rumour within the branches that the man who is in his late forties is fond of “tasting” the single ladies in the company. I curiously became interested though baffled because of his personality.

What Promotes Office Romance?

Depreciating beauty of the Spouse

One reason that my friend’s boss gave was that the wife doesn’t look attractive to him any longer. I have discovered that most women engage in much “paintings and rubbings” while they are single. They are very conscious of their bodies-body size, shape, skin colour especially in the black race, hair, nails, and other parts. I see this everyday in my office.
It’s quite surprising to me how some women throw these “beauty rituals” to the wind once they give birth to a child or two. Some men argue that this creates path and grants them the ticket for infidelity.

A Rat and Cat Home

Some men have become the cat and the women the rat in some homes.
Most men could not imagine going home to get emotional peace from their family because of the nagging of the wife while the woman could not stand the physical assault that the man gives her. Either of the two may decide to keep late nights in pretence of attending Executive meetings while keeping warm in the arms of the partner in the office.


In the developing world where employees are not paid per hour but run the 12-hour work schedule of 8am till 6pm or more, most office executives leave the office very late at night 10pm but leave their homes very early in the morning. Even the employee of the lowest grade works daily from 8am till 5 or 6pm on the average including Saturdays even Sundays in some cases.
This development makes him or her spend more time in the office than at home.
The man or woman may not devote her time to satisfying the emotional and sexual needs of the spouse which may cause marital deviation.

Lack of expression of Love

Human by his/her make-up needs care and attention and love whether Philia, Eros, agape or Storge.
Most married people may engage junior workers or subordinates in relationships for emotional and sexual satisfaction with a promise to satisfy their financial needs. This situation is aggravated by the fact that the man or woman has little or no time for the spouse because of official or business engagements which may keep him/her away from the spouse and children for weeks.

Insatiable sexual Appetite

Different individuals-man and woman have different degree of libido just as one man may be easily provoked than the other.
I have met most men who cannot stay with one woman for months let alone years. These men are better off taking on ladies for a night than a dedicated commitment of a lifetime.
Others have strong sexual addiction or the habit of getting at whatever is on skirt or appeals to their eyes. It goes for both sexes and I have seen this happen severally.

Quest for unrestricted Access

A lady friend of mine once told me that a lady becomes equal with the man the day he starts having sex with her. Most of the “official paraphernalia” get removed and freedom is enthroned.
I don’t know how true this assertion is, but I know that my branch manager as at then got all she needed whenever she needed them. No one dares stop her because she has a free access to the BOSS who romances her.
She is at liberty to discuss any issue, stamp her opinion and made daring demands at will.

Guarantees an unmerited Authority

The man or lady who is in hot romance with the Boss or a superior officer automatically places himself or herself above every other staff. This is so prominent among the ladies. They would flaunt it on other ladies especially those who proved stubborn to the boss.
Sometimes, she may use this power as a means of vendetta on those she perceives as a threat to her existence in the office. She may take decisions, issue corporate orders under the guise of the Boss and humiliate certain people.
I remember that my former Manager issued many memos to some staff which led to salary deductions, sanctions and even demanded at a time that some staff members’ appointment be terminated because they resisted her arrogance.

Recommended Book:

The Irony of Love, Premarital and Extramarital Relationships